Happiness is a tricky thing. We often think it’s something we just “get,” but there are actually hidden costs associated with being happy. And while some people might say they’re willing to pay those prices, others aren’t. This week on Bulletproof Radio, host Dave Asprey talks about how he’s learned to identify and avoid the things that make him unhappy. He’ll tell us what he thinks makes people unhappy, and why he believes that most people don’t want to know the truth about happiness. Plus, he’ll explain why he doesn’t believe that there’s such a thing as a perfect life.
You are required to have an acceptance of imperfections and flaws.
Perfection is an idealization. It doesn’t exist. You must accept imperfections and flaws because you’re human. You’ll never be perfect. And that’s okay.
Letting go of perfection allows you to relax and live in the moment. When you let go of perfection, you become more open and free. You feel less stressed out. Your relationships improve. You find yourself enjoying things more.
We are wrong about everything sometimes. Accepting that helps us understand others better. It gives us perspective. It teaches us humility. It makes us happier.
You have to take care of your own problems.
Blame is a powerful emotion. We often use it to excuse ourselves from taking action. But blaming doesn’t help us move forward. In fact, blaming makes everything worse.
If we are constantly pointing fingers at someone else, we won’t learn anything about how to fix our situation. Instead, we just become bitter and angry.
We must accept responsibility for our actions. When we do, we start working towards positive change.
You have to be afraid and still do it.
Happiness surges and crashes like a derivative orgy. We are all familiar with the ups and downs of stock market volatility. But how do you know whether you are experiencing a surge or a crash? And why does it matter?
The answer lies in our biology. Our brains don’t just react to events; they also respond to emotions. A surge in happiness is associated with increased activity in the brain’s reward center. This makes sense because happy people tend to seek out rewards. They want to eat chocolate cake, go shopping, watch movies, and hang out with friends. These activities provide pleasure and make us feel better about ourselves.
But there’s another side to the story. In a recent study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, researchers found that when consumers experience a surge in happiness, they are less likely to behave ethically. Why? Because when we feel good, we are less likely to think critically about things like fairness and justice.
We all know that happiness doesn’t last. If we are feeling down, we try to cheer up by eating junk food or watching TV. But true lasting happiness comes from developing deeper values that guide our behavior.
And those values aren’t something we learn from a book or a teacher. They come from within. They are part of who we are. They help us decide what matters most to us and give meaning to our lives.
When we feel good, we become less ethical. We stop thinking about fairness and justice. Instead, we focus on self-interest. We start acting selfishly.
This isn’t a problem. It’s actually a great thing. It helps us live more freely. It allows us to pursue our dreams without worrying about others’ feelings. It gives us confidence to take risks and explore new opportunities.
You need to find a deeper reason for doing what you do.
Money doesn’t make you happy. In fact, it often leads to stress, anxiety, depression, and even addiction. But money isn’t the root cause of happiness. We’ve been conditioned to believe that having more money will bring us lasting joy. This belief is wrong.
A recent study found that people who are most satisfied with life tend to be those who feel a strong sense of purpose. People who don’t have a clear sense of what they stand for find themselves struggling to maintain healthy relationships and achieve personal goals. They struggle to feel fulfilled because they lack a sense of direction.
The good news is that there’s hope. You can change your relationship with money and become a person who feels truly free. To do that, you must find a deeper purpose to your actions. Once you understand why you want to pursue wealth, you’ll start acting like someone who wants to live a rich life.
You have to be willing to fail and feel bad about yourself.
Failure is necessary. We must fail in order to succeed. And we must be open to learning from our mistakes. In fact, there are many things that we do today that we could never have done without having failed along the way. But most importantly, we must be able to accept failure as a natural part of life. After all, no one ever gets ahead by being successful all the time.
The problem is that many people think that failure is something to be ashamed of. They believe that they are somehow inferior if they make mistakes or if they fall short of some ideal. This is simply not true. You must be willing to fail and be embarrassed. Otherwise, you’ll never learn anything.
If you want to change your life, you have to be willing to take risks. Sure, there will be times when you’ll fail. But if you keep trying, eventually you’ll find yourself succeeding.
Frequently Asked Questions
How to stay happy while working
1. Take breaks
Taking time off work is not only good for your mental well-being, but it’s also great for your physical health. When you take breaks, you give yourself a chance to relax and recharge. You may even find that taking some time away from work helps you get back to work feeling refreshed and ready to tackle whatever comes your way.
2. Exercise regularly
Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and keep your body strong. If you don’t have much free time, try walking instead of driving to work, or go for a run after lunch. Even if you just do 10 minutes of exercise three times per week, you’ll feel better about yourself and your day.
3. Focus on what’s going right
When things aren’t going smoothly at work, focus on what’s going right. Instead of dwelling on the negative, think about how much progress you’ve made since last month. Remember that you’re doing a job that many people would love to have!
4. Eat breakfast
Eating breakfast keeps you energized throughout the morning. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Nutrition showed that eating breakfast reduces fatigue and increases alertness. Try having oatmeal, fruit, yogurt, toast, or cereal for breakfast.
5. Keep a gratitude journal
Write down five things each day that you’re grateful for. Studies show that writing down these thoughts can help improve mood and reduce anxiety.
6. Get enough sleep
Sleep is essential to maintaining a positive mindset. Make sure you get seven hours of quality sleep each night.
7. Don’t compare yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy. Instead of comparing yourself to others, look at yourself and your accomplishments. Remind yourself of all the hard work you put in over the years to reach where you are today.
What are the Benefits of being happy at work
1. Happiness increases productivity
Happiness is contagious. When we feel good about ourselves, others around us tend to follow suit. A study conducted by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky showed that people who were happier had higher levels of optimism, self-esteem, and motivation than those who were less happy. In addition, they performed better at their jobs and were more productive. People who are unhappy spend time worrying about things that aren’t even real, while people who are happy focus on what’s going right instead of what could go wrong.
2. Happiness makes you more creative
Creativity is something that comes naturally to some people, but not everyone is born with the gift. However, if you’re able to harness your creativity, you’ll find yourself coming up with ideas that no one else would have thought of. According to research published in Psychological Science, happiness helps boost our creativity. One theory suggests that happiness causes us to think outside the box, making us more open to new possibilities.
3. Happiness makes you healthier
A recent study published in Health Psychology revealed that happy people eat fewer calories per day. Researchers believe that this may be due to the fact that happy people are more likely to engage in physical activity. Another theory suggests that happy people sleep better, leading them to consume fewer calories throughout the night.
4. Happiness makes you smarter
According to a study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, happiness boosts brainpower. Participants who scored high on measures of positive emotions were shown to perform better on tests of attention, memory, and problem solving than participants who scored low on these same measures.
5. Happiness makes you live longer
In a study published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, researchers discovered that older adults who reported feeling happy lived longer than those who did not report feeling happy. The results suggest that happiness may help protect seniors from cognitive decline.
6. Happiness makes you more attractive
Research shows that women prefer men who smile over men who frown. Smiling is associated with greater feelings of well-being and positivity, both of which make us appear more desirable to potential mates.
7. Happiness makes you more successful
Studies show that happy employees are more engaged and motivated than their unengaged counterparts. Happy workers are also more productive and innovative than their less happy peers.